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Save My Marriage Or Relationship – Getting to the Core of Relationship Problems

Thursday, August 12th, 2010
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Many people search on my website because their relationship has run into difficulties and they are looking for help or ideas. The truth is that sustaining a successful romantic relationship is one of the hardest things we will ever do in life. After falling in love and the ‘honeymoon’ period, we all have to work on our relationships. This is because relationships bring up our deepest fears and insecurities. We can even think of relationship problems as our best opportunity to heal our personal issues – that is why we have come together with our partner.

I could offer you some temporary fixes to an ailing relationship, but if we are really going to save it and turn it into a lifetime partnership we must learn how to work on the negative issues that come up between us and a partner. To save a relationship and make it sustainable into the future we must be willing to heal the core issues that have caused it to run into difficulties in the first place.

Unexpressed Fear and Needs

All relationship problems arise from a breakdown in the loving connection between two people. There will always be some negative emotions that have not been expressed in the relationship – it is the fear associated with these, usually unconscious, feelings that destroys the relationship. The unexpressed feelings cause us to separate from our partner because we do not want them to see our negative side in case they reject us. Ironically, this is exactly what our protective strategy brings about!

Out of our fear comes our needs and these create demands on our partners. If there is a problem in a relationship, one or more significant need is NOT being met. Interestingly this will be the same need that your partner also feels is lacking in the relationship. By identifying your unmet needs you can give this same thing to your partner and they will automatically begin to give this same thing back to you. It is even better if you can talk about your fears and needs with your partner in an emotionally mature way. Honest and heartfelt communication is the best way to save a relationship. It can take courage to express your feelings but this is the way forward in a relationship problem. Sometimes it takes time and the help of a third party to do this, so you might consider some counselling. As you communicate about your unmet needs and fears you will find that your partner shares them and any problems will then fall away.

Arguments and Rows

Relationship fights are about who is going to meet the needs of the other person. Given that they are always shared by both partners, you can see how futile this is. To end an argument and prevent others occurring you must be willing to stop the fight over needs and think about what you could give to the relationship to make it better. Such leadership only comes when we recognise the cause of the fights and gain sufficient emotional maturity not to be triggered into anger and attack.

Judgements

Our judgements about our partners are really our self-judgements. We project out the parts of ourselves that we do not like on the people around us. What are you judging in your partner? What annoys you about them? Perhaps they are always busy at work and you don’t feel they value you. If so, how much do you value yourself and how much quality time do you give to yourself. By working on your own self-esteem (see my website for more ideas) you will become more attractive to your partner. After all, they fell in love with you because of the positive qualities they saw in you – find these again in yourself, embody them with all your senses and start giving them once again.

Spirituality

If you have a spiritual or religious belief you can ask for help and guidance from God (or however you know a divine or spiritual presence in your life). At the core of all relationship problems is a loss of faith in our own spirit and divine, loving connections. In fact we are afraid of this much connection – afraid of a spiritual oneness where there is just love for ourselves, everybody and everything. It seems that we create our relationship problems to avoid accepting our true loving destinies. Any spiritual practice will help with re-connecting with our spirit and help us to find peace and love in our romantic relationships.

Love

I assume you first got together with your partner because you felt so much love for them. At that time you both put aside your fears and needs and discovered unconditional love. Being human means that those fears often return but we can heal them best with a partner providing we are willing and brave enough to go into those areas of pain in our mind that we have hidden away. We avoid expressing our pain because we don’t want our partner to see what we perceive as a weakness – we fear they will reject us and leave us, and yet if we don’t express them the relationship is at great risk. Therefore a willingness to open our hearts and just become more authentic will always reveal the truth in a relationship and allow both partners to grow and take their lives forward.

So what is it that is holding your relationship back? Now is the time to grasp the nettle and open your heart. Feel into your own pain and hidden insecurities and realise that these are also in your partner, but probably cleverly hidden by compensatory behaviour. Your partner needs your help and you currently have more emotional awareness. They need your forgiveness for any failings and your emotional courage to inspire them to heal their own insecurities. Pour your love, appreciation and gratitude onto your partner and re-discover all those things that you adored about them in the beginning.

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The Basics Of Internet Marketing And Search Engine Relationship

Sunday, April 4th, 2010
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As employees, people can expect monthly salaries that they can use to pay for their expenditures. Aside from their regular monthly salaries, they are also entitled to several benefits such as health care, group accident insurance, financial incentives, holiday bonuses, and others. Thus, their life during their employment years is just like living in a world of security in terms of convenient living.

But once they entered the world of unemployment, it felt much like a civilized person entered the Amazon jungle. After losing their respective jobs (due to streamlining of their employee ranks or the company is experiencing financial difficulties), they have been stripped of their monthly salaries and additional benefits. Their basic needs are just provided given the availability of sufficient funds. Medical and educational necessities of their children are now beyond their reach simply because they cannot afford it. They lose all of their credit cards because they have no money to pay for its interest.

In other words, they are now at the helm of poverty brought by unemployment.

Despite of their current situation, most of them are determined to get out of such situation. All available job vacancies posted through local classified ads or Internet are sorted out, hoping for any possibility of getting employed from any of these vacancies. However, you cannot deny the fact that getting employed is nearly impossible to achieve. With thousands of applicants fighting for a single job vacancy, what is the probability that you will be hired? That is nearly impossible, so to speak.

What these jobless individuals do not realize is that there is still an alternative wherein they can get out from their unemployed status. They can earn enough or more for their families, and even get beyond the earnings of a corporate executive.

That is nearly impossible, you will say. But with Internet marketing, it is always a possibility.

If you are quite familiar with Internet marketing, you will be able to read and hear success stories about individuals who have been denied of getting employed, yet with the knowledge of Internet marketing together with their determination to get out of their unemployed status, they have succeeded and now earning more for themselves and for their families. For these successful online entrepreneurs, Internet marketing is a blessing for them.

Despite of the huge opportunity that Internet marketing provides to individuals who are courageous enough to take the risk, there are still individuals who fail to earn through their online business. It is because of their lack of necessary knowledge about Internet marketing attributes, particularly about the importance of search engine rankings.

What is search engine ranking? How important it is to the success of an Internet marketer’s career?

Every time online shoppers look for any product or service that they need or Internet users search for any useful information that can be utilized for any purposes, they tend to use search engines. If you are familiar with Google, Yahoo, or MSN, these are just some examples of search engines. The results displayed on search engine inquiries that are made is important to online shoppers and Internet users in finding any information, product, or services that they need.

Since Internet marketing is an online-based business opportunity, search engine ranking is one of the attributes that you need to consider. You need to build a clientele base that will patronize the products and services that you are offering for sale on the Internet. Such clientele base will come from the majority of online shoppers and Internet users over the Web, thus you need to attract them to visit your site and purchase your products or services. This is what you called the conversion of web traffic into loyal clientele base.

You will be able to attract traffic to your site through high search engine rankings. Your Internet marketing website must be on the top pages of every related search engine result that will be made out of every related inquiry. Remember that Internet users prefer the websites that are “highlighted” or placed on top search engine result pages. If your site appears on top pages of any search engine (not just one but several search engines), you will be able to attract more traffic to your website and convert them into loyal and long-term clients.

There are other things to consider when relating Internet marketing to search engine. However, you must remember one of the basics of Internet marketing-search engine provides you the opportunity to succeed in your online career.

By: Christine Jaa

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Why does every company need a CRM (Customer Relationship Management)?

Monday, March 22nd, 2010
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First, let’s define what a CRM is: The term Customer Relationship Management (CRM) software is a system that connects different parts of a company through the thread of customer relationships. Sales, Marketing, Accounting and Customer Service can all be tied together with a powerful, centralized CRM software made to retain customer loyalty, increase revenue, deliver consistent and efficient customer service, and finally, evaluate which customers to focus on.

Basically, every company has customers, and every company should maintain some basic information about those customers such as names, addresses, purchases, contracts, invoices, etc. Therefore every company should have at least some basic “CRM Technology” to track and serve their customers. Even small businesses use Outlook, Quicken or other applications for this purpose. If you use Microsoft Outlook for your daily communications, calendaring, tasks and appointments and need a way to track sales leads and opportunities, to share data across sales representatives, to improve the understanding of your sales process, to communicate with a broad groups of people on a one to one basis, to improve your business process in the most important area – sales, and need a reporting system that beats multiple excel spreadsheets, then you need a complete CRM solution.

Why ? Because a CRM software can increase profitability for your business by reducing current operating costs, usually in the call center or distribution system, and by increasing customer value through smarter marketing using customer data to increase customer profitability.  

Can you do it without a CRM ?  Probably, but not as  efficiently because only a CRM is built to take care of Customer personal needs “centrally”, meaning that by using a single software, all the employees of  the same company can access an organised database via Internet, where sales, customer service and management have access to the same customer data using tools such as “Sales Force Automation” (provides Lead Management, Opportunity Management, Account and Contact Management, Reports and Dashboards specifically useful for your organization’s sales team), “Customer Support and Services” (provides Ticket Management, Knowledge Base, E-mail Notifications specifically useful for your organization’s customer support team.),  ”Marketing Automation” (provides Lead Management, Mailing Lists, E-mail/Mail Merge templates, Product Management, specifically useful for your organization’s marketing team.), “Inventory Management” (provides Products, Price Books, Vendors, Quotes, Purchase Orders, Sales Orders, and Invoices specifically useful for integrating your organization’s sales, inventory, and accounting processes and enhance the sales effectiveness.) , providing a complete integration between pre-sales, post-sales, procurement, fulfillment, and other business processes within your organization.

In other words, a  good CRM software will help you build customer relationships by setting mutually satisfying goals between organization and customers, establishing and maintaining customer rapport and producing positive feelings in your organization and for the customers.

Organizations that implement CRM and turn their business into e-businesses will find their competitors’ customers ready to welcome them with a “smile”. According to a study by IT Consulting firm Aberdeen – “The winners in this new economy will be those companies that can effectively leverage the Internet to redesign, automate and integrate all business operations”.

Take the plunge!

Either jump on board with CRM and invest, knowing you need it, or get out the calculator and pencil and start adding up what you’re going to lose!

One thing is for certain – a few short months after implementing your CRM solution, you’ll wonder how on earth you ever got by without it!

Momentus Technologies
CRM specialists

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